As I am writing this I am in tears. I’ve always been the type of mom that has taken pride in breastfeeding. I felt that if I can breastfeed a baby there is nothing in this world I can’t do, no mountain I couldn’t climb, nothing I couldn’t conquer. I am Wonder Women, I can do It all. But on a routine checkup Wonder Women was defeated. My doctor told me for the sake of my health that I must stop breastfeeding. Never in my life have I ever heard any words that has hurt me so deeply. I found out that I’m currently going through renal failure and to save my life I must be put on medication that is not compatible with breastfeeding. I want my son to have the best start because everyone knows breast is best, but to know that while I am feeding him and giving him life I am slowly killing myself. This is agonizing. I’ve known for months that this was coming but I was optimistic that everything would get better, but I guess I wasn’t ready to face the truth. To all the women out there that are breastfeeding, enjoy every single moment of it because you never know when it will be taken away from you. I’m going to miss that intimate bond my son and I have. I’m going to miss the days when I would lie down to feed him and he looks at me and he would give me the biggest smile and that’s my touch me to the depth of my soul, but I know for me to even be in his life and to continue to see them grow and thrive as kids and hopefully an adult, I must stop breastfeeding him. I feel that I am cheating him out of the best start in life. As though I’m not giving him everything he deserves as a baby. But deep down I know that I gave him all I could when it comes to breastfeeding for 6 months. I will forever feel like I have failed my baby boy but I know for the sake of my family I did what was best for my son and my other 3 kids.
“There has never been, nor will there ever be, anything quite so special as the love between the mother and a son.”-unknown
It’s late Saturday night and I’m watching CNN and listening to George Michael Freedom! ’90! Today ladies we made history! Women marched around the world today. YES LADIES WE MADE HISTORY TODAY!!! In over 600 cities we marched and we protested, we let our voices be heard! We took a stance. We yelled, we screamed, and we carried signs all because we demand equal rights and also to protest Trump! Women of all race, ethnicities, and social class, came together today in unity. I am so proud!! As a mom of 2 girls, I am so proud that one day my girls will see this and be astound that millions of women marched and protested so they can be seen as equal, so they will never be seen as less or deserving of less, that they are capable of greatness! No one of power will ever make them feel that they are just objects! I’M SO PROUD TO BE A WOMEN…. HEAR ME ROAR!!!
To all the mothers with big, sore, leaky boobs, who’s fashion revolves around if your breast is accessible…. I feel your pain! To the women who wants to lose weight but don’t want to sacrifice their milk supply I feel you. To the women that breastfeed for more than one year, to the women that never gave up when they came home from the hospital because we all know the first few weeks of breastfeeding is the hardest, I thank you for not giving up. To the women that work 40+ hours a week and has to pump at work in the bathroom, I commend you. To the women who wants a nice supportive bra that’s also a little sexy but don’t want to ruin it when your breast starts to leak…oh boy do I get you. To the women that never gave up even though it’s hard, I understand you! To the women that breastfeed in public without covering up and not feeling an ounce of shame or care how Society may feel, I commend you and I’m with you. No matter what people say or how they may feel, the needs of your baby comes first. When you decide to breastfeed you put all your needs, all your wants and your pride to the side to make sure your baby is taken care of. Society will never truly understand the love and care that goes into breastfeeding your baby. All the backlash you receive when you do breastfeed your baby in public will be enormous. No matter what don’t let the ignorance of society dictate whats best for your baby. I am a breastfeeding mama and I will always support and advocate for any woman to be one!
“While breastfeeding may not seem the right choice for every parent,it is the best choice for every baby.”-Amy Spangler
“If I can’t have it, neither can you. If I can’t do it, neither can you. If I can’t see the bigger picture, neither can you. If I can’t be successful, neither can you. If I can’t achieve more, neither can you. If I’m not happy you can’t be either”
Do you have any friends or family that is always negative? Anytime they see anyone they know, (personally or not) that is doing better than them, they always have something negative and “petty” to say. This is all because they didn’t get what they wanted in life and they are miserable and bitter. The sad thing is, there’s so many people who have the crab in the barrel mentality, I see it everyday. I see it in my family, I see it in my friends, I see it within the African-American community and within women, and it is depressing, it is disgusting! We should be uplifting each other, be there for each other, we should push the next person to do better and to strive for greatness and in return they will help you reach your level of greatness. Simple words of encouragement or networking would help someone more than you could possibly know but in today’s society no one wants anyone to see anyone do better than them.
“They want to see you do good but never better than them!!”-Unknown
I know you are young and there is so much in the world that you can’t even begin to understand. You will experience death, love, hurt, confusion, and would be so lost when it comes to life. Your childhood will be a great one.You will get more than you could ever ask for, but deep down you knew that not having a father in your life will make you feel less than your friends that have the “perfect”family. But because of this you would understand the importance of a man being a father and would never deny your kids a relationship with their father. You will not understand the value of your mind and body and your self-worth until you are well into your late 20s. You will have a baby out-of-wedlock at 21 and will feel that you must get married because that is what you thought was right. Your marriage will produce 1 more child. This marriage is very toxic and subjected you to so much hurt and pain, but from this you will become a better person and will have so much growth from all of this. During this time you will lose your greatest influence in your life, your grandmother. This will be the hardest thing you will every have to face in your life. You went into a deep depression and didn’t know how you will make it through. In your early 30s you will finally know who you are and what you deserve and you will meet the love of your life that will be your rock, your cheerleader, and everything you every needed and deserve in your life. He will bless you with 2 beautiful kids and will show a side a life you never knew.
Even though you didn’t get the college degree you worked so hard for and you have lost jobs, been in-car accidents, that was an act of God that you walked away from unharmed, being in relationships that was abusive mentally and physically, you will still prevail. You will still hold on to the good in you. You wont let the past dictate who you are or who you will become. You will become a wonderful, smart, and beautiful, loving women.
“Those who improve with age embrace the power of personal growth and personal achievement and begin to replace youth with wisdom, innocence with understanding and lack of purpose with self-actualization.”-Bo Bennett
So in a few days we’ll be starting a new year! Its going to be 2017. And most of us will be starting our New Year’s resolutions. 2017 will be a year full of countless possibilities. But let’s not forget 2016. If you were like me and countless others, 2016 really wasn’t the year you wanted it to be. You may have made resolution that would made you into the person you always knew you were meant to be. But things may have not worked out and you might have been faced with a lot of ups and downs, some negativity in your life, or something that happen that you would have never thought would have happen to you. Let’s say one of your goals in 2016 was to lose weight. So you may have started to go to the gym and after a few weeks a you lost the drive to lose that weight and started to make excuse. There’s no room for excuses in 2017. Whatever your goal is for 2017, you need to go out and get it. So if it is your goal to lose weight, you need to write down a daily or weekly plan. You can make a vision board so each week you have a goal to accomplish. This daily or weekly goal could be for you to lose one pound a week, or to stop drinking soda, or to not drink alcohol, no fried food, or no take out. Whatever it is put it on the a vision board where you can see it everyday. Make a short-term and long-term goals. There will be no excuses in 2017. There is unlimited resource to help you with whatever goals you are trying to achieve. There is no excuses anymore, the world is full of opportunities and possibilities so go out and grab it. Don’t sit back and let your dreams pass you by.
“Everyday is a new beginning. Take a deep breath, smile and start again!”
You are a weak women! You are uneducated! No one will want you! No one will ever see your worth! You have more than one kid, no man will want you! You will never amount to anything! Have anyone ever said any of these phrases to you? I have heard them and felt the burn of their flames. I have been talked down to, made to feel that I was dimwitted and was even told that I was the black version of a blonde. But I am here to tell you to never let anyone make you feel less than what you are. I have been silenced because they knew my voice would have been too strong! It would have moved mountains, shaken them to their inner core. It would have made me into a women that they couldn’t contain. You have so much potential in you and people who are afraid and weak themselves and will try to make you feel less than what you truly are. They will talk bad about you to anyone that will listen. Don’t let anyone stop you from greatness. You are a Phoenix! From your ashes you shall rise and be reborn into greatness. Use their negative thinking towards you as a driving force. As long as you know your worth no one else opinion of you will ever matter or affect you.
“Weakness is what brings ignorance, cheapness, racism, homophobia, desperation, cruelty, brutality, all of these things will keep a society chained to the ground, one foot nailed to the floor.”-Henry Rollins
Since it is Christmas I decided to try to make a fleece blanket for my mother. It is real simple to make.
- First you will need 2 pieces of fleece, about 1 to 1 1/4 yards each.
- A pair of fabric scissors
- A ruler or straight-edge.
This is the fleece that I purchased at Hobby Lobby (my favorite store)
Step 1: lay the fleece on a flat surface with the sold color on the bottom and the pattern fleece on top.
Step 2: you will cut out a square that is 3-4 inches on each corner of the blanket.
Step 3: You will the cut slits about 3 inches deep all the way around the fabric. There is an example of this above.
Step 4: After cutting the slits, double knot each one. Keep doing this until your blanket is complete.
Simple and beautiful. It’s so many pattern you can use for this type of blanket. It makes perfect baby shower gifts or any occasion.